Operation Purple® campers said deployments were one of the toughest parts about being a kid in a military family. A deployment is moving a person or a military unit from the United States to an overseas location to accomplish a task or mission. This can mean anything from six months on a ship to a year in combat.
Families typically go through three phases during this time: 1) getting ready to deploy; 2) spending the time apart during the deployment; and 3) reuniting and reintegrating with the service member on their return.
During the deployment, service members may come home on a break known as R&R (Rest and Relaxation). This break can be very hard on children, since saying goodbye for a second time can be more difficult than the first.
Each phase has unique stressors, but Operation Purple campers were particularly concerned about the reuniting or reintegrating phase. Research shows that older children and girls have more challenges reuniting with the parent. Preschoolers may feel scared or angry while school-age kids might crave attention. Reunion or reintegration is a process that occurs over several months, not just a single day or couple weeks. Family structure and roles must be renegotiated with the returning member. Furthermore, reserve component families also face the service member’s adjustment returning to a civilian job.
With the right support, these families can get through this long experience and become closer and stronger. Here are some things you can do:
Military Child Education Coalition—resources and training for parents and educators of mobile military children. Visit www.militarychild.org for more information.
Zero to Three—Resources for the youngest military children. Visit www.zerotothree.org for more information.